Within Myself.

Relationships: When two are connected with emotions and feelings among one another.

What is it about relationships that people are urging to get into? The feeling to love and be loved makes me reminisce of the moments back in the days when we called it love. Young and fresh searching out for love.  

And then I see friends updating statuses of betraying or being betrayed from the one they loved because of so many reasons whether logical or not. So what happened to those happy times they had together? Those memories that they've spent together. Those loving moments dwelling into each other's eyes. Then I ask myself again, what would the relationship status be if you're away from me for a long period of time? Well, long distance. There wouldn't be any of the 5 love languages that we all know of. Words of affirmation. Quality time. Gifts. Acts of service. Physical touch. It might even slowly fade away, making us forget "those moments" we had together. So what is there left in the relationship? 

Commitment. Trust. And love.

I always believed that commitment is more important than love but does not mean that love did not exist in the first place. Because without commitment, love is hollow and means little more than an attraction. Besides God's love for us. Because we're only humans, and honestly we aren't able to love a person 24 hours a day, 7 days a week but we can choose to be committed to a person always. Commitment helps carry the relationship's ups and downs even after the excitement may have worn down. It helps us to consider the other half's needs before our very own.

Trust on the other hand seems to be something taken too lightly. What is a relationship without trust? Some said that it's nothing and I am one of them. Because when trust is broken, it takes a lifetime to regain and is never as strong. Forgiving may be easy, but trusting them again is a totally different story. Doubts. Suspicion. Anxious. Jealousy. Something everyone's very familiar with. Something everyone's not very keen of meeting. People say these comes when there is lack of trust in a relationship. It is built, earned and maintained. Trust among one another affects the entire relationship, it either builds or breaks.

Love is reminded by God to me through His word. For,

"Love is patient, love is kind.

It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking,

it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

It always protects, always trusts,

always hopes, always perseveres. - 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7

To forget the past that once hurt us. He did not say that there will not be any record of wrongs when there is love because again, we are only humans. And I admit that I have had a record of wrongs myself.

So, Evon.

Learn to forgive.

Learn to trust again.

Learn to love again.

Be strong.

evon